I'm also among the millions of moms who agonize daily about entrusting the welfare of her son to caregivers. I'm one of those who multitask at work. On one hand, i juggle the daily requirement of the job and on the other hand, i also cater to the daily needs of my child.
I'm among the moms who shed a tear upon hearing the voice of "disgruntled" child over the phone, probably asking, "Mommy, what time ka uwi?"
Working from home or being a housewife is out of the question! My job is important for us! Needless to say, the household can’t run on a single income so this mama just gotta shut up and deal with being a working mama!
I've been a working mama for just a year now, this is still work in progress, but here are some ways that can help make this setup work!
Make the most out or your weekends!
Since you can’t be with the baby 24/7, make it a point to spend weekends with the family! You don’t have to spend much, just being together and enjoying a simple meal can make the time spent worthwhile!
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We have the kid in tow even on weekend errands![/caption]Be a hands-on mom at home.
- I make it a point to cook for my child and feed him as often as I can! Since I’m out of the house 1 pm to 9pm, I make sure that the remainder of my waking hours are spent taking care of the family. This way, my child won't see me as an absentee mom! Before leaving for work, i also prepare his bottles of milk and food so that the caregivers will just reheat it. At least i have an idea what's he's eating while i'm away.
Deal with separation anxiety positively.
- I’m not really sure if this is the right way to deal with separation anxiety, but I don’t say goodbye to my kid when I leave for the office. Sometimes he throws a fit seeing me leave. Sometimes he does not seem to bother when i leave. I guess when he gets older, he should be told why mommy leaves him every day. I need to communicate with my son better so he'll understand the importance of my work.
Leave work in the office!
- Avoid bringing work at home, unless absolutely necessary. When i was single i used to bring files and files of office work at home. That's the procrastinator in me. But now that i'm a mama, i make sure that 100% of my family time is spent with the family. Although my line of work calls for being "on call" all the time, i make sure there's a clear line separating work and home affairs. Mommies must manage time efficiently in the office so you won't have to bring your work home.
Have trustworthy caregivers!
- This is my secret weapon how I’m still able to work and leave my kid at home. I have reliable and trustworthy partners at home - my mother-in-law and father-in-law plus the help. I'm at peace knowing that my son doesn't go astray while i'm away. I have my mother-in-law who oversees taking care of baby. Our help is very efficient and very masipag. That's why my son doesn’t go hungry, dirty or unattended! At least that's the silver lining in all this. I really am thankful that i'm leaving my son in good hands.
These are just some ways to keep this system going. How about you, how do you deal with being a working mama?
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2 comments:
i also don't say goodbye to my son when i leave home for work. I usually just sneak out so he won't make habol. I am also not sure if this is an good way to bring him up but it sure is effective. He's in that stage when he's still easily distracted.
You're right, toddlers are easily distracted! I hope saying goodbye to these kids will be easier as they gets older!
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